Dating use to be so simple, now days it seems to become such a controversial subject. Have you ever mentioned to someone about your preference and received backlash for because of it, and thought to yourself what in the bigotry…when did having a preference became prejudice? I remember signing up dating site, the first thing I had to fill out was my personal info (for the people that are interested in you) and then fill out information for my preference (the person you plan to be paired with).
First things first, if it’s a general dating site you will have to state your sexuality (if you choose). That is unless you go a specific website that targets certain demographics or sexual orientation like, Christian Mingle, Black people meet, Ashley Madison, or Sugar Daddy Meet. Then you will be able to describe what you are interested in a person physically. You will go into more detail like height, body type and then lists your interests, hobbies that you like and would like for your interest to have in common, and then WALA! Just sit back and wait for that dm from the person of your dreams.
to be attracted to a person you must be just that, attracted
Yes, it might seem a bit shallow but to be attracted to a person you must be just that, attracted. Whether you are a person that must find physical attraction first, must be intellectual stimulated be a least bit attracted at first, we all agree that there must first be some form of attraction. Sure, some people tend to be more specific than others when it comes to appearance. They might prefer someone that is tall in stature, with skinny ankles, light eyes, perfect teeth, and hair that glistens in the sun like a mermaid, because that is what they find attractive… now (and I say this because situations like reality and maturity tend to change this in time). But seriously speaking, some persons might prefer someone that is glamorous, while others prefer someone more the girl/guy next door type.
A person like this will be looked at as superficial which is not where the problem lies. I think the part that becomes more misunderstood and offensive to others is when race becomes involved. Where someone of specific race might say that they prefer do date only within their race or only outside of there race. This is where we are judged ever more as racist or discriminating. A person should be allowed a preference whether it offends someone or not, because in the end love have no boundaries. As long a person if of age and mentally able to they should be able to chose to date whomever they please. Just a few years ago people were not just judged but killed because of having a preference. It was illegal for persons of a different race, social class, or genders to do this, let’s not go back in time where we were punished for wanting to chose who or what we want.
Common topics that spark controversy when having a preference to:
- Dating outside or only inside your race.
- Dating someone with intellect.
- Dating outside your culture.
- Dating persons of a specific body type.
- Dating within or out of your social class.
- Dating someone with kids.
- Dating someone with a large age gap.
There are many more topics that can be included, but the topics listed are what I have noticed to be the most common and controversial topics when it comes to dating. The only reason I have noticed for this to be offensive to others is because of a person being close minded and only seeing it their way, or insecure because they might not fit the preference of that particular person. It’s totally fine to not be someones cup of tea, even if that is a person you might be interested in, sure it might sting at first but now that there is someone out there that will someday find you worship the ground you walk on. In the end its not wrong to date someone that is exactly like you or totally different from you, no two persons are exactly alike.
17 Of The Cutest Opposites-Attract Couples Ever On TV
Here is a list of my favorite onscreen couples that dated with no boundaries.
Rich, poor, human, supernatural, nerdy, popular, socially awkward, black, white, English, Irish, Pink lady, T- Bird, fiction or non we still can learn a thing or two from them.